I must make another #BLOGTOBER14 disclaimer: I am not proud of where my “best advise” came from. There are a lot of different options for a post like this, but with so many new readers, I wanted to share something more “real life” and less blog life. Still, I could have shared something my mom, my husband, or one of my friends told me, but instead I focused on something else. Something that I would actually like this blog to be more about.

The Best Advice I’ve Been Given

The best advice I’ve ever gotten (and actually listened to) has to be that my “diet” is a bank account. I don’t mean diet in the traditional female sense, I just mean all the stuff you eat throughout your life. Essentially the idea is that your bank account is a series of checks and balances, and so is your diet. You put money in and you spend money out, all while trying to keep a good balance. Eating doesn’t have to be any different.

Sometimes I am in a horrible mood, I am having an anxiety attack, and I need snacks. Sure, emotional eating is “bad” and I probably shouldn’t do it (obviously) but if a few gummy worms are gonna boost my mood then fine by me. So I will go to the grocery store and by whatever I want. I’m not going to feel bad about it, a spicy chicken sandwich and a bucket of gummy worms isn’t going to kill me. I just have to account for these less desirable choices later.

Here is where the bank account comes in. Last night I had chips, dip, gummy candies, chocolate, soda, and macaroni and cheese. This morning I will have my coffee and a light breakfast, probably a salad or something clean for lunch, and a healthy dinner. I can go crazy if I want to, as long as I get my shit together the next day. Or sometimes I take it even smaller and just do meal by meal. If I eat four mini bagels for breakfast, I clearly do not need a carb heavy lunch.

Why do I think that this is the best advice I have ever gotten? Look at those pictures up there, it has worked for me! I really feel the ability to do whatever I want, I don’t have to feel bad about myself, and I’m still losing weight/getting healthy and keeping myself happy. There is no point in looking good if you feel like shit. I am just the kind of girl that needs candy in her life on a constant basis. I am who I am, and I am totally not sorry.

Here is a really good break down of Bethenny Frankel’s 10 rules.

Maybe you can find some great advice there too!